24 April 2020, By Eileen

It just feels so good to be a part of a warm and loving family. This can make children feel secure and loved, which helps their brains develop and also to overcome difficulties with eating, sleeping, learning, and behavior. A good family relationship gives children the skills they need to build healthy relationships of their own. Do you want to know how to secretly connect with your child in a way that creates lasting change and strengthens your relationship and bond with your kid? The key is ‘Effective Praising ‘.

Building self-esteem in kids through the power of praise will transform your family. No matter how small it is, using the skill of ‘Effective Praise’ allows you to focus on praising your child for anything they do right. When you encourage your child to repeat the behavior you want instead of the behavior you don’t want, then you are focusing on developing positive behavior for your child. A child is less likely to act out in negative ways, if he or she feels being recognized for good things they are doing and if offered with words of encouragement. Try to use ‘Effective Praise ‘ to increase your child’s confidence, improve their behavior, and strengthen your family’s dynamic.

Steps to effectively praise your child :

  • Show your approval
    Appreciate the positive behavior you want in them and say the magic word ‘Thank you’. If your child is hitting their sibling but stops when you ask them to stop telling them ” Thank you for stop hitting your brother when I asked.”
  • Be specific:
    Describe to them the behavior you want. Try being specific by saying like, “When you play with your brother you need to keep your hands to yourself, and when your brother takes something away from you I need you to come to tell me instead of hitting him.” Give a meaningful reason for your child to behave in a positive way. This can be the hardest step for most parents.
  • Give a reward
    An award is an excellent way to reinforce positive behavior occasionally. Rewards can be anything that matters to your child, including extra internet time, playtime with friends, or the ability to choose a family activity.

It’s also important to pay attention to the feelings that your children and partner express non-verbally to your kid since not all communication happens in words. You may often find your teenage child not wanting to talk to you but might still come looking for the comfort of cuddles sometimes! Thus It’s also important to be aware of the non-verbal messages parents send like hugs and kisses. Even eye contacts send the messages that you want to be close to your child. But on the other hand, a grumpy tone of voice or a frown when you’re doing something together might send the message that you don’t want to be there. Your children will follow your example and will begin praising each other, you, friends, and strangers, as you become more positive.